There is only one hope

This is such a well written article.

I have championed being an aunt, I have whined about growing older, being lonely and dying alone, I have written about caring for ageing parents and being close to my mother, I have gone on and on about my dogs and I have waxed lyrical about shopping and travelling.
It's all about me, me, me. What else left is there to say which hasn't already been said? If my columns are a snapshot of what your average single working woman is concerned with, gosh, we lead rather dull, self-obsessed, self-indulgent lives, don't we?

'I feel guilty if I don't play and engage them and yet, given a choice, I would rather be drinking coffee and reading a book. That's the irony of life. I guess a lot of parents are like me too. Good to be like you at this point in time,' he said.
Singles, he added, have a good life. 'You have time to read your favourite book, drink your coffee, watch your movie, listen to your music, go to a spa, do your manicure and pedicure, meet friends, go for a swim or play a game.'
Put that way, I suppose I'm having a swinging good time, so why aren't I feeling it? Why do I sometimes feel that time has stopped to a crawl and Sunday night can't come fast enough? When you're single, I told him, weekends can drag and be a drag.
How many restaurant lunches can you eat? How often do you really want to meet your friends, or they you?

It does help if you have a partner with whom you do things. But even then, he can't be with you every minute of the weekend - that's the role for husbands.
And in any case, you don't want him to be stuck to you all the time because you covet your personal space, which is the irony of us independent-minded singles who are also looking for companionship.
Yet when you tell him it's time he went home, we'll catch up again next weekend, and you are all alone, there are so many tedious minutes to kill before the whirl of the work week comes around and rescues you from your misery.

IT'S not that I'm unhappy or lonely or even that I'm unloved and have no one to love.
It's just that I've so much time on my hands on the weekends I sometimes feel bored out of my mind.
I try to keep to a routine - lunch, shopping, dinner and EPL matches on Saturdays, then yoga, movie, lunch and a run on Sundays.
The schedule adds structure to the weekend, but it's become too predictable. I'm always bored and sometimes even the thought of logging on to the office computer is enticing.
I do realise that for time-starved people, having time to yourself is a luxury. In theory it is.
As a single, your weekends are all your own and there are 101 things to do. You don't have to get anyone to approve your schedule, there are no pesky in-laws to visit, no compromises to make and no errands to run for spouse and kids that will interfere with your plans.
But that's precisely the problem. Singles are faced with so many choices and have so much freedom that they are unable to decide. They feel paralysed, then ennui sets in.

Of course married people can be bored, too, but at least their lives are packed with activities which keep them physically and mentally alert and busy. As a friend said: 'When you're married, you wake up on Sunday and know what you'll have to do.' Often, that's all that matters.
And when you have kids, your life becomes more meaningful. Unlike singles, your focus isn't on your egocentric self. Life takes on a higher purpose because your mission now is to raise the next generation.

Such aperfect article.....Yes, everyone had that one wish for me too...and believe me, i really hope to make that wish comes true :(